What is being progressive?

They also say sharing is caring!

They say that the union of a male and a female through marriage is a bonding that God had predestined to occur. They also say that the partners bond in the holy bondage are for each other's completeness. They complement each other's existence, they make each other's life more meaningful. But unfortunately no law in this man-made society of divisions is spared of flaw. And this law is no exception either. Though fortunately the air of change, and for the better has started to flow through this bourgeois society. Yet the conjectured minds continue to rule the households of the majority. 

Today fortunately we don't teach our daughters to become proficient in cooking, cleaning and prepare to excel their duties as wife, mother, daughter-in-law and preferably forget their dreams, or better existence. At-least the society has learned to accept that a woman is capable of almost all the work has man does. She can be the bread-earner of a family too. But the flawed theory is more with the evolution of man from the dominant, to the hand in hand partner. He has gracefully (almost) learned to accept the fact, that his partner is a corporate player, a doctor or a successful businesswoman. But the difficulty is with his and the society's incapability of accepting the fact that, as she is sharing his load with jobs outside the four walls of the house, he should learn to share her load within.

We brag about how modern our society has become. We say that we are progressing at a lightning speed. Digital India! Progressive India! But can a society actually progress without being able to shed off the ingrained prejudices? Time for some thought! If you don't agree that we have impregnated minds...just ask yourself the following few questions

a. How many times have you heard that a man was anxious about the meal he was supposed to prepare after getting home, after chasing deadlines in office? 

b. Does the man of a family, of working partners think of the menu the cook will prepare?

c. Who is responsible for washing clothes or at-least sending the clothes to the laundry?

d. Who keeps account of the monthly groceries?

f. And my favourite, who prepares tea/coffee (mostly, not interested in the occasional show of generosity) after a wife and husband return home, both after a long day at office?
g. After answering the above, just ask yourself "WHAT IS BEING PROGRESSIVE?" to you.

The answers to the above questions and many more will give a transparent picture of the prejudices our society carries. And it is very important to prevent inculcating the same in the tender minds of the generations to come. And the one and only way of doing it, is to exemplify equality in the house. The man and woman of the house should be treated with equal dignity and all work should be shared. A boy and girl child should not be fed with different beliefs about their status in the society and more so in the household. As both of them strive to be successful individuals, both should be proficient in household chores. Such that these kids grow up to be successful and sympathetic building blocks of a society, which could be called progressive from the core.

“I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”

This video is extremely well made and symbolizes our society's pseudo progress 

ARITRA CHAKRABARTY SENGUPTA